Everyone has asked what constitutes cheating. I have yet to hear one definitive answer, and I’ve heard many conversations. The other night, I watched mental cheating right in front of me and didn’t even know it!!
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I was out with a good group of mine last night. It was a cool night in Midtown, and the nine of us were spread across the table having drinks. The conversations seemed pretty segregated in groups of three. Of the nine, only two were women including Anna; so that was one conversation. The one I was involved in was a deep conversation about AFF, and at the end were four guys talking about the best way to approach a random table of girls. I was next to Anna, and I could half hear them gabbing about our high level of dorkdom and some random gossip about another couple. All the guys smiled at them when they jeered at our conversation. I figure if the girls are talking about you in any way and smiling, then that’s a good place to be.
This was the first time I’d met a few of the people at the table. I’d met the other girl Sarah once before. She is a cute and shrewd black haired Jewish girl. I hear Anna mention her often, and I can definitely see the similarities in their personalities. Dan was sitting next to Sarah. Dan, me and another guy Saul got into some long discussion about the best place to meet cougars from AFF. Every now and then, he’d remove himself from our conversation and look over to Sarah to check on her status. He was doing the good boyfriend thing by giving her space but still checking on her every few minutes, which is smart because, even if they don’t need it, they still love it.
Dan and Sarah had that quality that everyone wants to have when they become a couple. It was like they were still good friends but still really into each other. I don’t feel like I come across that too much. My first thought was maybe they were still in a new relationship, but I quickly dismissed that since they were so comfortable apart from each other. That’s not a “new” feature. When a relationship is new, guys will always have an eye on the girl…no matter how far away he’s standing. We do it with the same subtly that women portray when they’re trying to act like they don’t notice a guy at the bar.
Dan jumped right back into the conversation with Saul and I on cougars like he never left for a second. He returned his attention back to me like he’d just opened a new toy. I swear it’s amazing what happens when you get two guys talking about sex. Anyway, he was going crazy about cougars and about the possibility of being with an older woman when all of a sudden he kind of sat up and slowed his speech. His enthusiasm tapered off too. Anna and Sarah had just ended their conversation too, so I just migrated my way over to Anna, which is never hard since her personality is contagious.
Anna always likes to flirt with me by giving me a hard time. Tonight, she decided to touch on my dork factor. She doesn’t think my affair with 45-year old is real (tell you later).
“You think we could be as cute as those two are one day?” I asked knowing that I could knock her back on her feet a bit.
Surprisingly she leaned forward into my face almost nose-to-nose and whispered, “Who are you talking about?” She did that head nod that people always do when they’re in public and are trying to act like they’re not looking at someone.
Trying to be funny, I stuck out my bottom lip and tried to talk through my teeth like I was being really secretive, “Dan and Sarah over there. Those two,” I motioned my head to my left across the table.
“Hun, you mean Sarah and Ryan?” She pointed to a tall guy around 6’5” with fine brown hair and a big smile on his face that had just walked up from behind me. “They’re not together,” she whispered.
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